You Want to Learn to Ride a Dildo? Here's How!

• By Naughty Boy

Learn expert-backed dildo riding tips for comfort, safety, and pleasure. Discover positions, lube tips, and techniques for hands-free satisfaction.

So You Want to Learn to Ride a Dildo? Here's How!

Riding a dildo is the perfect opportunity to fully indulge yourself into a powerful sexual fantasy. You are in full control of your pleasure both physically and mentally. Let your mind wander and get as gregarious or as gentle as you want, accompanying the story crafted in your mind of whatever turns you on the most.

Sounds great, doesn't it! The reality is that riding a dildo or any women's sex toy takes special techniques and considerations to make it an enjoyable sexual experience. It can be tiring, especially if you're not in good physical condition. It can also be uncomfortable if you angle the dildo improperly during vaginal insertion.

Today our guest is Mayla Green, owner and sex expert for the American sex toy boutique, TheAdultToyShop, to provide visitors of Cupid Baba with some Sexpert tips & techniques for riding a dildo comfortably and enjoyably.

Choosing the Right Sex Toy for Riding

Selecting the appropriate sex toy forms the foundation of successful dildo riding. The material, design, and features of your dildo significantly impact both safety and pleasure during your sessions.

Dildo Materials and Safety

Silicone dildos represent the gold standard for body-safe toys. Medical-grade silicone is non-porous, hypoallergenic, and easy to sanitize. However, only use water-based lube with silicone toys, as silicone-based lubricants can degrade the material over time.

Glass dildos made from borosilicate offer excellent safety and unique benefits for temperature play. These toys are non-porous and compatible with all lubricant types, though their rigid nature may require more careful positioning during riding.

Metal dildos, typically crafted from medical-grade stainless steel, provide intense sensations and work well for temperature play. Their weight and firmness create different pressure sensations compared to softer materials.

Avoid cheaper toys made from porous materials like TPE or PVC, which can harbor bacteria even after thorough cleaning. If you must use these materials, always cover them with a condom.

If you are in Europe or India, check out our dildo selection here. If you are in the USA, you can buy from TheAdultToyShop (this company sells dildos in the USA only).

Suction Cup Dildos for Hands-Free Play

A suction cup dildo is essential for most riding positions, allowing secure mounting on smooth surfaces. Quality suction cups adhere firmly to tiles, glass, polished wood, and other flat vertical surfaces or horizontal planes.

When selecting a suction cup base, look for:

• Strong, flexible silicone construction
• Wide base diameter for stability
• Easy-grip ridges for removal
• Compatibility with your preferred mounting surfaces

Troubleshooting Common Issues

Even experienced riders encounter challenges. Understanding common problems and their solutions keeps your sessions smooth and enjoyable.

Suction Cup Failures and Solutions

• Clean both the suction cup and mounting surface thoroughly if adhesion fails. Oil, soap residue, or dust prevents proper suction.
• Slightly dampen the suction cup with warm water before mounting. Too much water weakens suction, but a thin strip of moisture can improve adhesion.
• Test different surfaces to find what works best in your space. Some materials that look smooth actually have textures that prevent good suction.

Managing Physical Fatigue

• Take breaks when your legs or core muscles tire. Fatigue leads to loss of control and reduces pleasure.
• Use supportive props like pillows, furniture, or mounting aids to reduce physical strain during extended sessions.
• Build stamina gradually through shorter sessions rather than pushing through exhaustion in single long sessions.

Addressing Discomfort and Pain

• Discomfort usually indicates insufficient preparation, wrong sizing, or positioning issues. Stop and address the root cause rather than pushing through.
• Add more lube, spend more time on foreplay, or switch to a smaller toy if the current one causes persistent discomfort.
• Sharp or sudden pain requires immediate attention. This often signals potential injury and should never be ignored.

Size and Fit Issues

• If a toy feels too large, use extensive warm-up with smaller toys or fingers before attempting insertion. Never force penetration.
• Toys that feel too small may not provide desired sensations. Gradually work up to larger sizes over multiple sessions rather than jumping sizes dramatically.
• Consider girth as well as length when sizing. A toy with perfect length but wrong circumference won’t provide optimal comfort or pleasure.

Dryness and Lubrication Problems

• Reapply lube frequently if you experience dryness. Different people require different amounts, and needs can change throughout a session.
• Consider switching lube types if your current choice doesn’t last long enough. Silicone-based lubes last longer but aren’t compatible with silicone toys.
• Hormonal factors, medications, or stress can affect natural lubrication. Adjust your lube use accordingly rather than expecting your body to adapt.

Finding Your Optimal Rhythm

Practice different movement patterns to discover what works for your body. What feels good can vary based on arousal level, position, and personal preferences.

Don’t rush to find the “perfect” technique. Experimentation and gradual discovery often lead to better long-term satisfaction than trying to master everything immediately.

Record what works well in a pleasure journal so you can repeat successful techniques and build on what you learn.

Pleasure Documentation

• Keep a journal of what works well, what doesn’t, and discoveries you make during sessions. This helps you replicate successful experiences and avoid repeating mistakes.
• Note timing, positions, toys used, and environmental factors that contribute to particularly good sessions.
• Track how your preferences change over time. What you enjoy may evolve, and documentation helps you notice these changes.

FAQ

How often should I clean my dildo when riding frequently?

Clean your dildo before and after every use, regardless of frequency. For daily riders, this means twice-daily cleaning with antibacterial toy cleaner or mild soap and warm water. Weekly deep cleaning with boiling water (for non-vibrating, non-porous toys) provides additional sanitization.

Can I use any type of lubricant with my riding dildo?

Sex lubricants compatibility depends on your dildo’s material. Use only water-based lube with silicone toys to prevent material degradation. Glass and metal toys work with all lube types, including silicone-based options that last longer during extended riding sessions.

How do I know if a surface is safe for suction cup mounting?

Test surfaces by pressing the suction cup firmly and attempting to remove it with gentle pulling. Safe surfaces include clean tiles, glass, polished wood, and smooth painted walls. Avoid textured surfaces, porous materials, or any surface that shows flex or movement under pressure.

Is it normal to feel sore after long dildo riding sessions?

Mild muscle soreness in your legs, core, or pelvic area after extended riding is normal, especially for beginners. This should resolve within a day. Persistent pain, burning sensations, or discomfort that worsens may indicate overuse or insufficient preparation and warrants a break from riding.

Can riding a dildo help improve my sexual technique with partners?

Yes, dildo riding builds body awareness, muscle control, and understanding of your pleasure responses. Many riders report improved confidence and communication about preferences with partners. The precise control required for riding also strengthens pelvic floor muscles, which can enhance partnered sex.

What should I do if my suction cup dildo keeps falling during riding?

Clean both the suction cup and mounting surface thoroughly to remove oils or debris. Ensure the surface is completely flat and non-porous. Slightly dampen the suction cup before mounting, and press firmly to eliminate air bubbles. Consider switching to a different mounting surface or investing in a higher-quality suction cup base.

How can I make dildo riding more comfortable for my knees and legs?

Use padded surfaces like yoga mats, pillows, or cushions under your knees during floor mounting. Take frequent breaks to stretch and change positions. Build leg strength gradually through shorter sessions rather than immediately attempting extended riding. Consider furniture-mounted positions that provide additional support for your body weight.